How to Split Your Bridesmaid Duties
Having bridesmaids is one of those things that sounds super fun in theory
Matching dresses. Getting ready together. Champagne clinks and cute pics for the feed.
But it’s also kind of ...a job.
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And if everyone’s just floating around not knowing what to do ...you’ll end up doing everything yourself, while also trying to plan a whole wedding.
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That is what this blog post is for ...to show how to splits things up
So everyone know how to help and your not stuck juggling it all by yourself
Here are some roles you can assign to your girls
1. Snack Manager
A well-fed bride is a happy bride. And a hydrated one?
Practically invincible.
This role is for the bridesmaid who will keep snacks and water within arm’s reach all day long - while you're getting ready, taking photos, or dancing your heart out.
She’s the reason you don’t end up dehydrated or hangry at the altar.
What this looks like in action:
Bringing your favorite protein bars, cut-up fruit, or sandwich bites.
Reminding you to sip water between events.
Keeping a few mints or gum on hand for a quick refresh.
Bonus tip:
Give her a mini cooler or tote bag stocked with your faves in advance.
She can keep it nearby all day and sneak you bites between photos.
2. Emergency Kit Carrier
Every bride needs that friend who’s got the “just in case” bag.
She carries all your just-in-case stuff and is basically a walking mini-mart for wedding day fixes.
What this looks like in action:
Holding onto things like safety pins, fashion tape, Advil, deodorant, stain wipes, eyelash glue etc
Jumping in when your heel breaks or a bridesmaid needs a blister patch.
Bonus tip:
Let her go through the kit before the wedding so she actually knows what’s inside.
And isn’t digging through it like a raccoon at midnight.
3. Bride’s Inbox
The day-of point person for everyone else.
Guests, vendors, distant cousins - they can go to her, not you.
She keeps your phone (or a second phone), answers questions, and the human version of “do not disturb.” so you can stay calm and focused
What this looks like in action:
Taking vendor calls, answering questions like "where’s the parking again?"
Holding onto your phone so you’re not glued to it while you’re getting ready.
Bonus tip:
Give her the key contact list in advance (like your coordinator, photographer, DJ, etc.) and a quick idea of how to answer the most common questions.
4. Content Creator
She’s the one snapping behind-the-scenes photos and taking fun little videos while everyone’s busy living the moment.
Not to replace your photographer - but to capture the real stuff that doesn’t always make it into the pro album.
What this looks like in action:
Filming timelapses of glam time.
Recording you vibing with your friends or tearing up when no one’s watching.
Capturing random voice notes or shaky videos that’ll make you emotional later.
Bonus tip:
Make a shared album or Google Drive folder in advance so she knows where to drop it all later.
5. Drama Blocker
She is your in-house energy guard.
She’s calm, she’s cool, and she knows when to redirect the nonsense before it even gets to you.
What she's doing:
Shutting down drama without turning it into a bigger deal.
Steering conversations away from messiness.
Keeping everyone chill if tensions sneak in.
Bonus tip:
She dosen't have to be confrontational - this role is more about reading the room and quietly handling issues before they explode.
Oh, and while we’re here...
If you're planning this whole wedding without a wedding planner (or even if you do have one but still feeling like everything’s on your plate), I made something for you.
It’s called the Wedding Planning Bundle - and I made it for brides who are trying to do it solo while still juggling work, life - to help take some of the weight off your shoulders.
It holds space for the little things that get overwhelming fast -
like keeping track of your bridal party’s details, organizing vendor info, tracking guest lists and ... just knowing where everything is when your brain is full.
I left the link right here if you want to check it out.
6. Dress + Veil Assistant
This one’s all about the glam.
She’s on veil patrol, bustle duty, and dress fluffing—and yes, she’ll be your bathroom wingwoman if needed.
What this looks like in action:
Helping you into your dress and shoes.
Fixing your veil for photos.
Bustling your train before the reception.
Lifting your dress when you need to walk or ...handle business.
Bonus tip:
Walk her through how to do the bustle before the wedding so there’s no confusion after the ceremony.
And maybe bring her with you for one of your fittings.
7. Time Keeper
Your wedding coordinator may run the show, but this bridesmaid helps keep you on track.
She gently nudges when it’s time to get into the dress, checks the timeline when people get distracted, and keeps the day flowing.
What this looks like in action:
Keeping an eye on the schedule.
Helping everyone stay on time for photos, toasts, etc.
Giving heads up when you’re about to be late (but in a chill, not-panicky way).
8. Vibe Checker
She reads the energy of the room like a pro.
Whether it’s calming you down, turning up the hype, or quietly making a moment special, she knows when to step in and when to step back.
What this looks like in action:
Playing your favorite playlist when you’re getting overwhelmed.
Telling the makeup artist your brow is a little too bold - but nicely.
Creating those pause-and-breathe moments that help you stay grounded.
Bonus Tip:
Tell her the vibe you want ahead of time ...chill? hype? zero chaos?
Then trust her to read the room and adjust as needed.
Final Thoughts
This isn’t about micromanaging your friends.
It’s about letting the people who love you actually help you—without all the
“What do you need?” chaos.
They want to show up for you.
Give them the tools to do it.
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Oh — and before you go...
If you need help figuring out what to actually ask your bridesmaids
I made a little something for you.
It’s a free bridesmaid questionnaire
Super easy to edit and send out, so you can get on the same page with your girls without a whole back-and-forth.
Link is below if you need it
Grab the free bridesmaid questionnaire here.
You’re welcome 💅
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