Let’s Talk About Money & Bridesmaids (Because No One Ever Does… But We Should)

Honestly,

Money and friendship don’t always mix smoothly.

And then you add Wedding planning to the mix...

Chilee😮‍💨

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Cos no one wants to be that bride who’s out here making her friends go broke

...just to wear matching dresses and smile in heels for eight hours.

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But at the same time...

You've got a wedding to plan.

Outfits to figure out.

Things to book

...and all of those things cost money.

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So what do you do when you want your girls to feel included and appreciated ...but you also know some of them might be quietly stressed about the cost?

That’s what this is blog post is about..

We’re making it make sense today - money + bridesmaids edition.

Let’s get started...

1.) Let the money talk come from you first

The truth is, they’re probably already thinking about money.

From the moment you ask them to be a bridesmaid, they’re already wondering: “What’s this gonna cost me?”

So don’t make them guess

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You don’t have to lay out a spreadsheet right away, but just give them a heads-up in the most “you” way possible.

Doing that instantly takes the pressure off and opens the door to honesty.

2.) Be super clear about expectations

One thing that causes tension?

Surprises ...especially the financial kind.

So when you know what you want them to do

(whether it’s buying a dress, chipping in for the shower, or traveling for your bachelorette),

....let them know early.

Don’t assume.

Spell it out clearly and early

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It’s such a small thing, but it builds trust.

And trust keeps the group vibe happy.

3.) Be flexible with what people can actually afford

Your girls love you and want to show up for you.

...But life is life.

Someone might be paying off student loans.

Someone might have just had a baby.

Someone might be flying in from another country.

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So if you’ve got a friend who’s struggling financially, give her a soft landing.

You don’t have to un-ask her - just offer options

Like;

Can she borrow a dress from another bridesmaid?

Can you cover something small for her if you can swing it?

Can she be part of the day in a different, more affordable way?

4.) If you're covering something - say so early and clearly

If you have wiggle room in your budget, and you plan on gifting something or covering a cost (like their dress, makeup, or a hotel night), tell them early.

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And if you can’t help financially, help in other ways like:

-Have dresses in a flexible price range

-Don’t make everything mandatory

-Skip the super expensive add-ons

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5.) If someone can’t be a bridesmaid - let it be okay

Sometimes someone you love just can’t afford to be a bridesmaid.

It sucks, but it’s not personal.

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What matters is giving her a way to still feel important.

Let her be a part of your day in a different way - maybe she gives a toast, gets ready with you, helps you prep for the wedding weekend.

Whatever feels right.

It’s the heart behind the role that matters.

6. Keep the communicating throughout

Even after the initial convo, check in.
Ask how everyone’s feeling.

Sometimes someone won’t say anything right away but might circle back later.

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And as plans evolve

...let them know about those changes early too

(especially anything that affects cost).

To wrap it all up...

Money doesn’t have to ruin your friendship.

And honestly, most girls aren’t expecting everything to be free ...they just want to feel like their time, energy, and budgets are being respected.

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So be clear. Be honest

And remember ...your friendships matter way more than those matching robes.

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See ya laterr💗

*Also before you go...
If you want to skip the back-and-forth and actually know what your girls are cool with

(budget-wise, dresses, travel, etc)...

I made a quick little Google Form you can just send them*

You can get it here👇