How to Write Wedding Vows (That Don’t Suck)
So. You’ve decided to write your own wedding vows.
Cute. Brave. Also—kind of terrifying.
If you're sitting in front of a blinking cursor like,
"How do I sum up everything I feel… without sounding like a Hallmark card or an awkward AI?" — You're not alone.
Writing wedding vows is weirdly hard.
You love this person more than anyone on Earth — and now you have to put that into words?
In front of people??
And keep it under 2 minutes???
Deep breath.
We’re fixing that today.
This is your actually-useful guide to writing vows that are:
-Personal
-Poignant
-A little funny (if you want)
And most importantly— You
And yes, I’m giving examples for every single tip, so you don’t have to “guess what that looks like.”
Because guessing = stress.
1. Start With a Specific Moment, Not a Generic Statement:
-What most people do:
"From the moment I met you, I knew I loved you."
(Which sounds sweet... until you realize 17 Pinterest pins said the exact same thing.)
-What to do instead:
Start with a moment that’s so specific, only the two of you would get it.
Example (good):
"I knew I loved you the night you didn’t say a word, just held my hand while I cried over a stupid fight.
That quiet moment said more than any ‘I love you’ ever could."
Example (bad):
"You’ve always been there for me when I was sad."
(Okay... but how? When? Give us the picture, girl)
2. Don’t Try to Sound Like a Poet.
Sound Like You
What most people do:
"Your eyes are like the ocean.
Your heart is my compass.
Your love is the wind beneath my wings."
...Ma’am. No
What to do instead:
Write like you talk.
Like you’re telling your best friend about your person.
Example (good):
"I’m not gonna pretend I wrote something Shakespearean.
You already know how bad I am at texting back — this is a win.
But I love you, and I mean every word of this, even if it’s not all rhyme-y and deep."
Same example (bad):
"You are my protector, my safe space, and the rhythm of my soul."
(Ever heard anyone say that out loud and not sound like they’re auditioning for The Bachelor?)
3. Balance the Funny With the Feels:
Humor is powerful— but don’t let it take over the moment.
Use it to show your dynamic, not to avoid the emotional stuff.
-Example (good):
"I love you for how you always show up — unasked, even when I pretend I’ve got it handled.
But I also love you for how you never remember where your car keys are... even though they’ve lived in the same spot since college.
You drive me a little crazy, but you’re still the easiest yes of my life."
-Same example (bad):
"I vow to never change the Netflix password when I’m mad."
(Okay, funny. But… where’s the actual vow?)
4. Make 2–3 Real Promises You Can Actually Keep:
Big, dramatic vows sound nice, but they usually don’t stick.
Instead, vow things you’ll actually do—daily.
That’s the gold.
Example (good):
"I won’t pretend I’ll get everything right — I won’t.
But I promise I’ll keep trying, keep showing up, even on the days I’m scared and unsure.
I vow to listen, really listen, when you need me most.
And to choose you every day — not just when it’s easy, but especially when it’s not."
Same example (bad):
"I promise to always make you happy."
(Sis ...you’re marrying a whole human.
He will be grumpy.
And sometimes it will be your fault.)
5. End With a Clear, Grounded Statement:
Don’t trail off into poetic nonsense.
End with a strong, steady, clear-as-day sentence that wraps it up.
Example (good):
"I don’t believe in perfect people or perfect timing.
But I believe in you.
I believe in this.
And I’m all in.
I love you {inserts your mans name}."
Same example (bad):
"Forever and always, our hearts will dance together in the garden of eternity."
(Lol ...what even is that.)
Or You Can Use this Shortcut
If all of this still feels too hard, use a vow-writing template.
That doesn’t make it less real—it gives you structure so your brain doesn’t combust under pressure.
Here’s a basic one to try:
-Start with a memory:
"I knew I loved you when…"
-Say what you admire about them:
"You are the only person who…"
-Make 2-3 real promises:
"I vow to…"
-End strong and real:
"I love you, and I always will—even on the hard days."
And if you still can’t get the words out? -
I have something that would help...
Let me make this easier for you.
Inside my Wedding Planner (which is part of my Wedding Planning Bundle), there’s an actual section dedicated just to your vows.
I’m talking:
-Thoughtful prompts to help you figure out what to say and how to say it
-A space to scribble your rough ideas (for when inspiration hits at 1 AM)
-And a final draft section — so everything’s in one calming, easy-to-find spot
And listen… that’s just one part of what’s inside the Wedding Planning Bundle.
Because if you’re feeling stuck on your vows, I’m guessing the rest of the planning process might also be feeling a bit much.
Here’s What the Full Bundle includes;
1.) A Wedding Budget Tracker that helps you see what you’ve spent, what’s left, which vendor you have paid, which vendor you haven't and even their due dates...and so much more
2.) A Wedding Guest List Spreadsheet; that helps you keep up with who’s coming, what they’re eating, which side is the guests from (bride, groom or both) and whether they’ve responded at all
3.) And of course — the Digital Wedding Planner
(which i already talked about in the beginning)... that holds everything — your vendor contacts, inspos, timelines, checklists, seating charts, a place your wedding party details and yes… the vows section too
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All designed to help you feel organized, calm, and ready — not buried under random notes and to-dos.
It’s just $37 right now (normally $62).
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— and make this whole thing feel a lot lighter.
Final Thoughts
If you’re worried your vows won’t be "good enough," stop right there.
They don’t have to be perfect.
They just have to be true.
If your voice shakes... if you laugh halfway through... if you cry while reading it?
That’s perfect.
Because it’s real.
It’s you loving your person out loud.
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And ...Just tossing this back in front of your face in case you missed it earlier:
if you need an extra hand in not just the vows but everything...then go grab my Wedding Planning Bundle
Trust me, it will help the planning process feel so much easier and most importantly faster!
here’s the link again👇
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