Do You Really Need a Wedding Planner?
One of the first questions that will hit you after getting engaged is “Do I need a wedding planner?”
And it's for a reason
Cos planners are not cheap
But...
At the same time
...wedding planning is a lot
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And it's not always easy to know whether you need one or not.
That is why
I thought it was important that before we dive into how to even plan your wedding without a planner
We need to first figure out if you’re someone who actually needs one
...or if you can do this on your own.
"How do i know if I need a Wedding Planner?"
FACTOR 1 - YOUR BUDGET
This is the most important factor.
If hiring a planner is going to completely blow up your budget and leave you really stressed about money the entire time, then it is not worth it.
You can put systems in place and still plan beautifully on your own.
FACTOR 2 - TIME
Do you actually have the time to do this?
Because planning a wedding is basically a part-time job.
So...
If your schedule is already insane with work, school, or life
...then bringing in a planner is would be worth every penny.
FACTOR 3 - YOUR PERSONALITY
Some people love making decisions and being in control (i happen to be one of those people).
So if you're like me ...then you might be happier planning it yourself.
But...
If you're like my best friend (i know she will read this and roll her eyes😅)
...who only the thought of choosing between 15 florists will make her want to crawl under your bed.
Then a planner will be your saviour.
FACTOR 4 - SUPPORT SYSTEM
Who do you have around you?
If you’ve got a really supportive partner, friends, or family who are willing to help.
Then going planner-free will be way easier.
But if you know most of this will fall on you alone, then that’s a different story
FACTOR 5 - SIZE AND COMPLEXITY
A small, intimate wedding with 50 guests is totally doable without a planner.
But if you've a huge guest list (130+), multiple locations, or a weekend-long event??
You need a wedding planner.
FINALLY FACTOR 6 - YOUR STRESS LEVEL
Be honest with yourself:
Are you okay spending your engagement stressing over details, or do you want to be more hands-off?
There’s no shame either way, but knowing how much stress you’re willing to take on will help you decide.
Now...
If you've considered all these factors
and you're like
"Yeah Divine ...i'm still gonna do it myself"
Then let me give you 5 Simple rules ...that i want glued to your mind.
That will help you pull this off and pull it off happily...
1.) Always start with your non-negotiables
Before you dive into decor ideas or googling linen textures ask yourself:
What would make this wedding feel like us?
What are the musts - not the Pinteresty, overdone,
“everyone else is doing it” stuff - but the things that matter to you two.
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Whatever it is ...
Write it down.
And stick them somewhere.
Because when the wedding pressure kicks in and the opinions starts coming (and they will),
...you’ll want to remember your core.
2. Decide quickly and move on!
Indecision is the biggest wedding budget killer.
And also, the biggest peace-of-mind stealer.
You will be tempted to second-guess everything
...the dress, the chairs ...the exact shade of dusty rose that’s apparently not quite mauve but not quite blush either.
It’s a trap!
Make your decision.
Own it.
Move on.
The world will keep spinning whether you use gold flatware or silver.
3. Track everything in one place
You think you’ll remember who paid you in cash.
You won’t.
You think you’ll remember Aunt Lisa’s gluten allergy.
You won’t.
You think you’ll remember what you told that vendor on the phone last week.
You really won’t.
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This is where you guys end up losing your minds.
Because planning a wedding isn’t just planning one big event
... it’s juggling hundreds of tiny moving pieces, all with different deadlines, prices, contact people, and emotional weight.
You need one central system.
Btw ...if you need something like this.
I actually sell these!
I will give you more details about it ...later on
4. Give yourself decision deadlines - and enforce them.
Not just wedding-day deadlines.
I’m talking about you deadlines.
“I will choose my florist by Friday.”
“I will stop looking at dresses after this weekend.”
“I will not entertain one more invitation redesign after the second coffee of the day.”
If you don’t give yourself a stopping point, you’ll spiral.
You’ll keep tweaking, keep researching
... keep pushing off decisions because you might find something better.
And the wedding will start to feel like a never-ending assignment with no submit button.
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So the best gift you can give yourself is permission to be done.
5. Finally Get a day-of coordinator
I know the budget’s tight.
I know everyone’s saying
“you don’t need one.”
But I’m telling you right now: a day-of coordinator is not a luxury - it’s a lifesaver
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Because no matter how organized you are
...you can’t be the one setting up your tables and also walking down the aisle.
So even if it means cutting back in other areas, budget for a Day-of coordinator.
They’re worth every penny.
Truly.
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Now
...the thing is
They won’t plan your wedding for you.
They won’t be the one tracking your guest list.
Or sorting out your budget.
Or reminding you which vendor hasn’t been paid yet.
All of that?
Will be on you ...and it starts months before the coordinator ever steps in.
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So even with help on the day-of...
You still need a way to plan all the stuff leading up to it
And this is where I come in...
(*This is the tool i told you ...i will give more details about*)
Because I created something specifically for brides like you.
The ones who
Are on a tight budget and don't have the money to spend on a full on wedding planner
Are okay with planning their wedding themselves but just wish that someone told them what to do and when
So if this is you
And you need help?
Then i dropped the link for you to grab it.
Let's conclude...
And that is a wrappp brides.
Sorry if this blog post was on the lengthier side.
...i just wanted to make sure i covered all areas.
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If you have any questions or even extra tips ...you can comment on the pin that brought you here and share you thoughts
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See you guys in my next post
Byeeee💗
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