How to Avoid Wedding Planning Burnout
For some reason ...everyone always hypes up planning a wedding like it’s supposed to be this dreamy, glittery experience?
And don't get me wrong ...it can be
But...
They always forget to mention the other side.
The side of how quickly your excitement turns into pressure.
Or how the to-do list somehow grows overnight even ...when you didn’t touch it.
So if planning your wedding has slowly started feeling like… a job.
with no training manual, no HR, and way too many people in your business.
Then this post is for you
We’re gonna talk about how to plan your wedding without losing the joy that got you excited in the first place.
Because yes — it’s 100% possible to do this without burning all the way out.
First — why are you burnt out?
Cos ...your doing too much.
Not in a bad way tho
In a ✨survival way✨
Like, “if I don’t do everything myself, everything will fall apart and I’ll have a wedding disaster and people will talk about it for years” kind of way.
Cos burnout doesn’t come from planning a wedding.
It comes from trying to plan a wedding without boundaries, rest, systems, or help.
It comes from trying to be a wedding planner, logistics manager, design expert, accountant, customer service rep, and family therapist — all at once.
And on top of that, feeling like if you complain about it, you’re “doing too much” or “should be grateful.”
Like no.
You can be excited and still overwhelmed.
Those things are allowed to exist together.
So if you’ve been snapping at your partner, procrastinating even basic tasks, or lowkey fantasizing about running away and eloping in the mountains ...yeah, you might be a little burnt out.
Let’s talk about what to actually do about it.
1. Stop wedding planning every single day
Let me guess — you haven’t stopped scrolling for inspiration since the ring hit your finger.
You’re saving TikToks in bed, pinning centerpieces at lunch, responding to vendors in traffic, and mentally calculating the budget while trying to fall asleep.
Girll...
No wonder you’re tired.
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...You’re not a robot.
You need rest from the wedding.
Try this: pick 2–3 days a week that are off-limits for wedding planning.
I’m talking no spreadsheets, no phone calls, no obsessing.
Just vibes.
Hang out with your person.
Watch Love is Blind.
...Live.
Because if you don’t take breaks, the planning will start to feel like a job you never clock out from — and that's the fastest road to burnout.
2. Stop saying “yes” to every idea
This one hurts a bit.
You know when you say yes to everything you see?
Like “Ohhh, I love this flower wall.”
“Wait, now I want a champagne tower.”
or
“Omg, let’s do matching bridesmaid pajamas... and robes… and custom tumblers…” before you know it, you're 20 tabs deep in ideas you never asked for and don’t even care about that much.
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So remember: just because it’s cute doesn’t mean it needs to be in your wedding.
Pinterest is not your planner.
It’s a buffet and you don’t need to put everything on your plate.
Cos the more you pile on, the harder it gets to actually move forward — which leads to, you guessed it …burnout.
Try this instead: Make a “yes list.” Like, a legit list of 3–5 things you really care about for the day.
The things you want to remember when you look back at photos in 10 years.
Focus your energy there.
Let the rest be chill.
3. Get out of the “I’ll just do it myself” trap
(There’s no award for
“Most DIY Bride of the Year.”
...I checked)
I know, I know.
No one gets your vision.
No one replies on time.
Everyone keeps asking you more questions instead of helping.
...So it just feels easier to just do it all yourself.
But that’s why you’re burnt out.
You’re not supposed to carry the whole wedding on your back like a wedding-planning pack mule.
That’s not your ministry.
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So I need you to delegate something.
Anything.
Let your partner be in charge of music.
Ask your best friend to research vendors.
Let your cousin follow up on the Airbnb.
Even if they don’t do it your way — as long as it gets done.
And you get to breathe ...that’s what matters.
4. Please stop thinking everything has to be perfect
Wheww.
This one might be the hardest — because let’s be honest, some of us (*coughs, me*) are recovering perfectionists.
We want the day to be beautiful and memorable and smooth and worthy of all the effort.
But trying to perfect every single detail is exhausting.
It turns small decisions into life-or-death.
It makes you second-guess everything.
It invites panic over tiny things like linen shades and font choices.
And for what?
Cos truth is, your guests won’t notice half the things you’re stressing about.
And even if something goes “wrong,” the love will still be there.
The joy will still show up.
That’s what makes the day perfect.
So pleaseee — take the pressure off.
Aim for meaningful, not flawless.
5. Build a System to support you
This sounds fancy but I promise it’s not.
Basically yeah you need a way of keeping track of everything so you’re not always starting from zero anytime you sit down to plan.
Because that’s what’s exhausting - not just the planning itself, but the mental gymnastics of trying to remember:
"Where did I write the caterer’s number again?"
"Wait, did I send that RSVP or just dream about it?"
"Is my guest list updated... anywhere??"
So when I say “create a system,” I mean:
Keep all your stuff in one place (not spread across 9 notebooks, screenshots, and vibes)
Use a simple checklist or planner that shows you what to do and when
Create little routines, like a weekly planning check-in or a 15-minute “wedding brain dump” night
That way, even when your brain is tired, the system holds everything for you.
You don’t have to think too hard — just follow the flow you already set up.
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*(btw ...if you need help with this part.
I created a tool specifically for brides trying to plan their wedding without a wedding planner and who need someone to help guide them through it
So if that's you and you wanna check it out....i dropped the link below)*
My Final thoughts...
You only get to plan your wedding once.
And it’s so easy to let the stress steal what’s supposed to be fun.
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So remind yourself often …of why you’re doing all this in the first place.
You’re getting married to the person you love.
That’s the whole point.
And everything else?
It’s just details.
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